Everyone has a love bank. You make deposits or withdrawals with every relationship interaction. For a successful relationship, you need to make five deposits for every withdrawal. Here is how it works: Every time you meet a need in a relationship you are making a deposit into the love bank. Below are the top ten needs for a partner, rank them in order of importance to you:
Affection
Sexual Fulfillment
Intimate Conversation
Recreational Companionship
Physical Attractiveness
Honesty and Openness
Financial Support
Domestic Support
Family Commitment
Admiration
According to Dr. Willard Harley, author of His Needs, Her Needs, “We are emotionally attracted to people with positive balances and repulsed by those with negative balances. This is the way our emotions encourage us to be with people who seem to treat us well, and avoid those who seem to hurt us.”
To learn more about this concept and how to be more fulfilled, take this test with your significant other. If you do not have a partner, take this test to get a better idea of your baseline and what you need to be happy.
RX: Aim for 5 positives for every negative interaction for a stable and happy relationship and here is why.
(Aspiring to be a) Joy Spreader
